.please don`t feel sorry for me.
– “Yes, just me!”
No need to give me a look full of pitty, I`m not lonely. Im alone. By choice. Because I love my own company. I blogged about this another time but then it was more about being single. Now I`m just more concerned about the fact that so many people are terrified of being alone.
In April I went for 1 week to New York. Alone. And I got a lot of questions about why. And a lot of people seemed to feel sorry for me. But please, don`t feel sorry for me. You see, me booking a trip to NY wasn`t me going alone cause no one wanted to go with me. Me going alone was an active choice, because I wanted to experience NY in my own way. I wanted to have that time alone. We are surrounded by people all the time. I love to go to a restaurant and order a nice meal and sit alone and enjoy it. Look at other people. Talk to the waiter.
It`s hard if you`re not use to it. You will feel awkward. You will think that everyone is watching you and that they all think why is she or he alone. But the fact is, everyone is too busy with their own business or their own worries. And if people look at you or comment on the fact that you`re alone – so what?! They are obviously not comfortable to be by themselves other wise they wouldn`t react that way. And why care so much about what other people think? Life is too short for that. But it`s like were back in school and the cool kids are always in a group, you never see them alone. And if they are alone they instantly get weak. And the kids that are by themselves (by choice or not) get bullied cause the society has decided since YEARS back that people that are alone are weird. By why do we, the adults bring that with us through life? Haven`t we learned that the society will tell us million of things that are complete bullshit!?! So why is this one of the things we carry with us?
Maybe it`s the human fear of ending up lonely, we are herd animals. And we need people around us like our family and friends. But that`s not the point here, the point is that –>
.alone doesn`t mean loneliness.
Like I said in my old blog post, if you`re not comfortable in your own company, how will you ever be comfortable with others?
Be who you are – and don`t let the society turn you into someone you aren`t.