.you become who you hang with.

.love your family – choose your friends. / Peter Sage

                                                  It’s not coming from ego, it’s actually the opposite.                                                                               It’s about recognizing that everybody is on a journey. Everybody is on a path and what gets you from A to B doesn’t get you from B to C. There have been people in my life that have been great at that point, but everybody is on a different journey. And there are moments when I recognize that the patterns that my friends run no longer serve the aspirations of where I want to go. And then it’s a very easy call. Do I wanna settle for staying on that path or do I wanna say “I love you guys, I respect where you’re at, my path right now is to look in another direction”. And I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. Usually this happens naturally and it’s nothing we usually talk about. But sometimes it can be useful to  actively do it.

I see two different cases for an active choice of “peer group”. First is, if you see that you’re standing in the way of someones development or if someone is standing in the way of yours, then it’s a very mature way and also caring way to move on. Or someone is taking all your good energy and never ever gives anything back.

“The quality of your life is a direct reflection of the expectations of your peer group” /Tony Robbins

And then you have these fantastic friends that always will be there. Wherever in the world you are, whatever you do, even if you haven’t seen each other in ages – everything will be like normal. It’s like your journeys are completely different, but it’s not so much about that. You can have different types of jobs and interests – and in the end it’s all about integrity.

.people that brings out the best of you, and the other way around.

A lot of people settle in life and they spend their whole life living for the good opinion of other people. They will stick to the same “peer-group” the same friends who are actually holding them back from development and sometimes even happiness. But they rather do that then meeting new people that probably would make them happier. And if you can unhook from that way of living, there is a level of freedom that really adds value to the people that you then can become an example for,

for walking your own truth.

I hope you like my thoughts around this area. Lots of inspiration from Peter Sage.  If you have any questions or thoughts please feel free to leave a comment.


2 thoughts on “.you become who you hang with.

  1. What inspirational thoughts! I actually never thought about friends and friendship that way, but you’re showing me a very interesting, also deep and touching way of thinking. The part of ‘these fantastic friends that always will be there’ made me remember my best friend I know since we were born, so I had to immediately send her your blog. We don’t meet often, our jobs and lifestyles are completely different, yet we couldn’t love each other more and we’ll hopefully stick together forever! So thanks a lot for sharing your impressions, Heidi! ❤ Love you!

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    1. Thank you for your comment. I’m happy that I can inspire you, and/or to make you think differently about things. I think it’s always important to see things from different angles. Not always easy, but sometimes a good thing. Thanks for spreading my blog around 😉 Have a great day ❤


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